You chose

You meet You fall in love You choose this person to walk through life with You CHOOSE them. You create a life. A home A family You become a Mother A Father A Mother embodies the role of nurturer, sometimes naturally, sometimes through trial and error and tears. A Father assumes the provider role An ancient sense of responsibility kicks in to provide for his wife and child The mother nurtures, the father provides Roles we subconsciously play Then disconnect occurs as the Mother begins to nurture the husband as she would the child. Flowing from mother to lover becomes harder to navigate The Father feels a sense of neglect, subconsciously Where did the lover he chose go? The Mother.. feels burdened by another needing her attention... she feels stretched thin Who is looking after her? She is exhausted with a job that never ends He is exhausted from a responsibility that feels like it never leaves his shoulders A sense of abandonment on both sides Who feels the familiarity of this story? That’s just one of many versions. We have two people who chose to be together Now feeling stuck together. Trapped Lonely but not alone Forgetting why they got together in the first place. Become a parent is life changing You grow in ways you did not know you could. You forget who you were, you take on a new role and sometimes get lost in it. And when you realise... it can be hard to find your way back to you, or rather integrate the new version of you Remember you CHOSE each other. You were friends and lovers Not each other’s mother and father. Come back to why you chose What drew you in And see if those same versions are in you If that same desire to grow and create together is there And if it is not, it is ok We grow and change Not everything or everyone is forever And we choose then to move through to the next chapter with love Because it started from love and learning to communicate, to own our issues, our fears, needs is the only way we get back to who we are within